Facing a loss is a very traumatic experience; it shakes us to our core and weakens our life force. Many times this trauma is experienced as a disintegration of the self and the personal environment. Grieving is the process by which we adjust to a loss; temperament and personality affect how this very personal journey is undertaken. By observing the symptoms that appear while grieving, Flower remedies can be prescribed to facilitate this process.
Sometimes the pain is so intense that it can’t be transformed by our life force and it is stored deep in our chest weighing heavy on our heart. Trapped in the past we fear stepping into the future carrying such paralyzing anguish and pain. There is also a loss of vitality and the necessary will to connect to what makes our life meaningful.
Loneliness and isolation are very common at this time; the depth and intensity of the pain are so intense that we feel nobody can understand it enough to help us. Transcending this “dark night of the soul” can give us the opportunity to perceive the light of transformation and recover our lost sense of identity.
Bach Flower Remedies useful in the grieving process
Star of Bethlehem: This remedy brings comfort; it facilitates the integration of experiences and seals leakages in the energy field.
Walnut: Aids in assimilating the event and promotes adaptation while giving a sense of protection.
Willow: Helps with the “why me?” and feelings of victimization.
Larch: Promotes self-confidence and action.
Cerato: Builds self-esteem.
Gentian: To feel more positive about the future.
Gorse: For hopelessness, when feeling there is no reason to continue.
Sweet Chestnut: For extreme anguish.
White Chestnut: For obsessive thinking or recurrent images.
Pine: When blaming ourselves for what we did or didn’t do.
Wild Rose: For apathy and resignation.
Rock Rose: For extreme situations, when paralyzed by fear and incapable of thinking clearly. When everything seems lost.
Elm: When overwhelmed and not able to ask for help.
Gabriela Arnold, Flower Essence Therapist